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1. Let him know you are of value.

Honey, he isn’t ever going to meet a girl like you again. Let him know that in a confident way! For example, when the 23 year old asked me to hang out and go out to beer pong with him and then still didn’t know what was going on at 10PM I changed the plans. I kindly said, “Since everything is still up in the air, why don’t we plan to do something tomorrow together instead.” What this said to him was, you know what buddy, I’m not going to sit here and wait for you all night. Additionally, when he texts you, don’t text him back right away even though I know you are checking your phone every 30 seconds to see if he called or texted- act like you are a busy woman and aren’t drooling over him like a sad puppy dog who sees a bag of Beggin’ Strips ^®.

2. The power of the word want.

Know what you want in a guy or a relationship and stick to it. Don’t settle for less than you deserve, there are too many men out there just to settle for one who doesn’t compare. Two guy friends of mine once told me that the word ‘want’ is one of the sexiest thing to a man can hear. Once I found out about this, I used this technique on the frat boy. After we were talking for a while, I brought it up. I asked what he was looking for and then I added about what I want, “Let me tell you what I want in my next relationship, I want someone who can be my best friend, who can make me laugh, who I can travel with, create great drunken memories with, and have crazy wild sex with.” Later after he asked me to be his girlfriend he told me this is one of the best things I said because it let him know I knew what I wanted from him and that they were things he thought he could provide for me.

3. Make the first moves.

Just recently I met the man of my dreams and while he was saying goodbye and I said, “Wait, aren’t you going to ask for my number?” He knew I enjoyed his company by me saying this and he took down my number and not even ten minutes later he had texted me to ask me out on a date. Waiting for the guy to make the first move is overrated, men like it when you make the first move because most of them don’t have the balls to do it anyway. Furthermore, the current man of my dreams told me that he makes the girls come to him, thus, if I didn’t make the move- I would not be as happy as I am now. Don’t be afraid to ask to hang out first, but don’t be persistent after that… if a guy wants to see you, he will find a way to see you.

4. Do not talk about your future together.

If you want to scare a guy away quickly, go ahead and talk about tying the knot, how many babies you want to have, and all your life plans with your future significant other. I repeat DO NOT talk about the future unless he asks, males get freaked out by thinking that you might be the one vagina their penis will ever encounter, for the rest of their lives. If he asks about future plans, he likes you and you have succeeded.

5. Make his friends love you.

When you first meet his friends, make a good impression. Getting along with a guys friends is a one way street to his heart because no one wants to be with a girl who doesn’t get along with his friends. I once was the only girl with 7 of his friends watching the season finale of Games Of Thrones with all of them… not my ideal Sunday night but I felt like one of the guys, and they felt that way too. Every guy likes his girl to be able to run the beer pong table and rub it into his friend… be that girl.

6. Make his family love you.

This is saying if you get the privilege to meet his family. Mostly, if he likes you- he will want to introduce you to his family. Family is the closest thing to most people and that means males included. The guy wants to see that you will get along with his family because if he decides to keep you around, it will be a tough life if you and his mom are throwing bitch fights at each other.

7. Don’t be a naggy bitch.

I can tell you why most men don’t want to commit or have a fear of committing is because they feel like the party will be over, and they will become their parents with a boring, unfulfilling life. Let them have time to hang out with their guy friends away from you, don’t whine about every little thing either and make sure you pick your battles. If you are a whiny bitch, I can tell you why you’re not with anyone and that’s because you are annoying and no one wants to deal with you and your divaness. A guy wants a girl who he can spend a lot of time with and not get tired of. If you are nagging him about things, he’s going to run away from you so fast you won’t even know how it happened or where you went wrong. Let them have their life with their friends, their life with you, and also mix the two… the world doesn’t revolve around you and what you want. So listen to me now and don’t ruin it for yourself.

8. Laugh at his jokes.

This one is pretty self explanatory, but every guy thinks that one of the sexiest things that a girl can do, is laugh at his jokes and understand his sense of humor. Chances are, if you want to be with him you probably get his sense of humor anyway because that’s usually part of their charming ways that they lure you in.

9. Make him wait.

So you really like him and he turns you on so much? Wait it out. Let me tell you something about males, they LOVE to have sex and will try to have sex with you but in their brain they are saying, “Don’t do it, you’re going to ruin it!” Of course they don’t tell you this, but it’s so true! Your best bet is to only do it when you feel like there is an emotional connection or make a SMALL list of stipulations. For instance, I made the non-committer introduce me to his parents first. Do not make it seem like you’re trying to be high maintenance and if he tries something just say, “You turn me on so bad, but I’m not ready for that yet.” DO NOT shut him down, make him feel unwanted, or not sexy.

10. Before you have sex.

WATCH SOME PORN. I’m one of the classiest girls that you’d ever meet, but in the bedroom, no class is necessary. I’m a strong believer in porn, it will teach you a thing or two and help you to come out of your shell. Why does this matter to make them commit you ask? Men are disgusting creatures, sex is EXTREMELY important to them. Also, don’t be afraid to sext him… it will spike his interest. I’ve heard in conversation with my various guy friends that every guy wants a girl who will just be naughty for him. Again, let loose and have fun with it. Believe me when I tell you that he will love it and it will keep you out of the friend zone. Like they say, be a lady on the street but a freak in the sheets.

11. While having sex.

Don’t be shy. Sex is supposed to be fun, so say what you want and let him know you’re having fun. If you aren’t he is certainly going to pick up on it. Don’t be afraid to tell him what you like/ don’t like. He wants to know how to please you, if he doesn’t- drop him like it’s hot. Do you really want to spend potentially forever with a guy who only cares about himself? HELL NO, I certainly don’t and you shouldn’t either.

12. Men have three basic needs.

Food, beer, and sex. When he doesn’t have an erection… hand him a beer and a sandwich and he will be yours forever. You have this in the bag.. go win over your prince charming. GET IT GIRL!

Dear diary, I just read my whatsapp history with E. And it brought back so much hurt albeit the sweet memories. At the same time, I'm reminded of how B was my pillar of support then. I can't imagine how I would have been able to pull through that period without B by my side. B, is such a special person to me. It's been close to 2 years, and he's never failed to be by my side. After all my stormy experiences, he's still around. Although we're no longer at the top of our whatsapp lists, your name is no longer brought up to my sis every other day or two, we're no longer the ones each other would rush to meet after the end of our lessons, amk is no longer the place I would frequent, I can still sense my place in your heart. I know I'm still special and important you. We still phone once every week or two, and this non frequent act just makes each phone call even more precious and enjoyable to me. Change is indeed the only constant in the world. You're still special to me like how I am to you I believe, but the feeling just isnt the same as before. Used to be able to talk to you about anything under the sun, and do anything and everything with you without fear and without worry. Idk what's my intention of writing this. I really miss us. I miss that pure friendship. It was happiness. All happiness. But how can I expect things to be like before when we're now both single and he's a guy and I'm a girl and we just hit it off so well with each other. He's still the one who makes me laugh and smile the brightest. He was the one almost 2 years ago, and he still is 2 years later. But it's exactly this that is pulling us apart. Not daring to move a step ahead, we're stagnant, or rather, we're moving backwards. We're sliding back every now and then, forcefully trying to hold on to something by our sides, something which can reduce the speed of backsliding. Actually, I would be an idiot if I don't grab hold onto this beautiful opportunity that's been given to me so long ago right? Indeed, I was such an idiot to give myself to E, going through all the hurt, tears, and heartache, and yet allowing B to be just that someone, someone who was always standing that one step away. B and I make such a better pair, no? And there are risks involved in everything that we want and so we have to fight for it isn't it? Yup, the risks involved here are too huge, but if I successfully do it, the outcome would be so beautiful, so worth everything.

I miss you. I miss you. I miss you. But I don't even know what to say to you if I were to text or call you. You said we don't talk anymore. Are we too similar? Waiting for the other to initiate. Miss you so much. Miss the good old days so much. Those were the days you were the first I'd think of and contacted when I had anything to share with anyone. You would be at the top of my whatsapp conversations list. Can we go back to how we used to be? I want this so badly but I just don't know how to. I wished my exams would be over soon so we could spend some quality alone time with each other again. Can't stop saying how much I miss you.

Dear diary,

Yeah it's been a while. Feeling damn fucked up lately. Lethargic, apathetic, empty. Feel so useless and dumb. Seriously, I tried to be optimistic. But it is just not working. I know the worst thing to do right now is to dwell in my unhappiness and pessimism. Yeah of course I know all the dos and don'ts. But the thing is, I feel so down, too down to do anything. It's not like I am not trying deliberately. I know my sense of determination and perseverance is effing low right now and there are many people who are in situations far worse than I am but are still holding on and trying. But I just feel tired. So tired that I feel like taking a break and pampering my emotions for a bit.

Been saying and doing so many dumb things. And my general knowledge really sucks. Feel like a frog in a well. And fucking lousy time management. Such that I can't even balance anything properly. School, love, friendship, kinship, personal interests and social life. Tim said something that really made me reflect. He said, "There will always be something due every week. If you want something, you just gotta make time for it". And it's not the first time that all of these occurred to me. I tried. But I just kept regressing. Feel so stupid and useless. Can't even get a thing right. And I feel damn fucked up for not being able to express my emotions and thoughts well. So many bottled up emotions that I hope so much to let out but which I have no idea why I just can't seem to use the appropriate words or actions to express or relieve. Feel so messed up, unorganized, and just frustrated. Screwed up friendships, romantic relationships, and even kinship (I should feel lucky that my family is not the petty nor the easily detached type).

My friends, the person that I like, and my parents all have that impression that I never placed them as priority (they think either others are always prioritized before them or that school is always my first option), and I give up and get unmotivated easily, and I'm such a coward in pursuing what I want. Fucking useless bitch. And I am missing out so much on tv series, reality shows, movies, music, and books. I know I gotta find time if I wanna be in the loop. But all these are meant to be recreations and leisure activities. Why am I feeling so much stress and putting in so much intentional effort into trying to find time for these?

I seriously need to improve on my time management by using effective strategies. Yes. In fact, all it takes is to find the key solution to all these problems. And that is, determination. Keep trying. Keep trying to develop better strategies. And keep practising. Practice makes perfect. And don't be easily pulled down by the criticisms of others. Do not be afraid. Put down your pride at times. Really, it's that simple if you think about it. And yes, I do feel better after writing all these down. Perhaps allowing myself to face those negative emotions is healthy afterall, as long as I don't dwell in it but pick myself up shortly after and focus on logical problem solving.

Yup. So start to plan. Effective planning. Prioritize people who are important. Set aside time for them. And set aside time for your own interests, what you desire, as well as other essential knowledge and experiences that will keep you in the loop. YOU GO GIRL. JIAYOU. Do not always wait for others to initiate. You, shall be the one who initiates, leads, and stands out.

[Avril Lavigne]
Love that once hung on the wall
Used to mean something, but now it means nothing
The echoes are gone in the hall
But I still remember, the pain of December

Oh, there isn't one thing left you could say
I'm sorry it's too late

[Chorus]
I'm breaking free from these memories
Gotta let it go, just let it go
I've said goodbye
Set it all on fire
Gotta let it go, just let it go

[Chad Kroeger]
You came back to find I was gone
And that place is empty, like the hole that was left in me
Like we were nothing at all
It's not what you meant to me
Thought we were meant to be

Oh, there isn't one thing left you could say
I'm sorry it's too late

[Chorus]
I'm breaking free from these memories
Gotta let it go, just let it go
I've said goodbye
Set it all on fire
Gotta let it go, just let it go

I let it go, and now I know
A brand new life, is down this road
And when it's right, you always know
So this time, I won't let go

There's only one thing left here to say
Love's never too late

[Chorus]
I've broken free from those memories
I've let it go, I've let it go
And two goodbyes, led to this new life
Don't let me go, don't let me go

Don't let me go, don't let me go, don't let me go, don't let me go

Won't let you go, don't let me go
Won't let you go, don't let me go
Won't let you go, don't let me go
Won't let you go, don't let me go

I miss you. But I don't have the courage to develop nor express my feelings towards you. B.

I am forcing myself to develop feelings for others when all I think about is still you.

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Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed

 
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.

I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.  
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what  others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

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Top 10 Hiking Trails in the World

Whether you are a professional climber or a passionate hiker, here are ten spots to consider. Some of them are not as challenging as others, but all of them share the breathtaking view.
 
10. Fjords, Norway
This is a real hikers heaven in Europe! Hikers also get to admire the wonderful landscapes. The steep Preikestolen cliff or Trolltunga are favorite among tourists.

 
9. Fjordland, New Zealand
The area is considered to be one of the finest walks on the planet. The mystic landscapes served perfectly for „The Lord of the Rings“ saga.

 
8. Blyde River Canyon, South Africa
Hiking around 33 kilometer canyon reveals wonderful sites. The exotic biodiversity also adds up to the explorations.

 
7. Hua Shan (Mount Hua), China
Although many non professional climbers come here, the hiking tracks are very dangerous. The unreliable trails and railings open an unforgettable scenery, though.

 
6. Andes, South America
Besides wonderful nature and many treks of various complexity, the ancient city of Machu Picchu can be reached by hiking.

 
5. El Caminito del Rey, El Chorro, Spain
A very narrow hiking trail is pinned to the steep rocks and is considered to be the most dangerous in the world.

 
4. Kalalau Trail, Kauai, Hawaii
The beautiful landscape can be rather deceiving: the dramatic coastline could be a real challenge for the hikers.

 
3. Alps, Europe
Besides Mont Blanc – the highest peak on the continent – the mountain range has many tracks. The 100 miles Tour du Mont Blanc spreads through Switzerland, Italy and France.

 
2. Mount Rainier, WA, USA
The 4,392 m (14,411 ft) height peak adds up to a beautiful landscape of Seattle. It requires professional equipment to climb it, but there are plenty of paths for the beginners, as well.

 
1. Himalayas, Nepal
The highest peaks in the world are found in this mountain range. It is, of course, the most difficult mountains to climb, challenging adventurers for decades. The rough landscape holds some very picturesque sites, though, like Pangong Tso Lake.

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See The 5 Kick-Ass Women This Mom Dressed Her Daughter As Instead Of A Disney Princess

Photographer and mother Jaime Moore searched high and low for creative inspiration to take photos of her 5-year-old daughter Emma but found most of the ideas were how to dress your little girl like a Disney princess. It got her thinking about some real women for her daughter to look up to, whether that be a pilot, a doctor, or even an astronaut.
Then she did what I can only describe as kick-ass. Below are the five inspirational women she dressed her daughter as. Then scroll down to see the bonus sixth photo because it made me smile so much.
 

Susan B. Anthony
 

Coco Chanel
 

Amelia Earhart
 

Helen Keller
 

Jane Goodall
 

The photographer's daughter, Emma.
 

Dear diary, actually I felt the attraction towards him once again after the phone call 2 days after I blogged about the last post. Ironic much huh? Missing him much.

Yes u, B. Ivan Sung. Reason being you were my dearest bingbing whom I would used to call you by. Why is there always a period of time when I would feel exceptionally distant from you? Will we overcome this again like how we did a year ago when I was touched by what you did for my birthday and became closer after that distant period? What are you thinking? How are you feeling? Don't you feel that we are no longer the close friends that we used to be? Why do you seem so indifferent? I thought I could be different. I thought I could open up your heart. But the fact is that, I can't. You are the most unfeeling appearing person that I've come across. Do you know that? I guess your heart is deeper than where I thought it would be and thought I could reach out to. But it seems that I am wrong. All the sweet memories that we once shared seem to be non existent. I want to let go. I don't want to hold on to the hope of returning to how close we would be anymore. It is making my heart ache. And I feel so miserable. I long so much for you yet each time when I see you, it's nothing but mere annoyance. And I don't know how this can happen. I yearn so much to draw us closer together, but you just annoy me by sounding sarcastic, indifferent, and you're just like a rock. So hard, tough, and cold. You're like a stranger who is no one like the warm and dear brother that used to be there for me all the time. You used to be the first to know everything on my mind and now you seem to be the last, or sometimes you never knew. I don't even know how I'm feeling anymore. I thought I liked you more than just a friend. But your actions turn me off every time we meet such that I feel so ready to let go. I feel like I'm just holding on to the past, which is not even liking. I'm just missing the good old days. Actually you know what. I think I should stop thinking. Each time this happens, I should calm myself down and after a while, I won't feel as affected anymore. Like how I just did. As I came out of the washroom, I feel more calmed down. Girl brain, girl brain. Stop thinking so much.

Obtain love, not lust.

Missing you. But busy us. Projects and exams. Gawdamnit.