It’s a simple reality of human life, and it’s all in your head. Everyone feels fear. Winners don’t let it cripple them: they set it aside and just do it. Life’s too short to get hung up on what you’re afraid of.
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after
that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes.
You are free. – Jim Morrison
On the other side of fear is growth. Clear your mind, put things into perspective, and realize that worse than fear itself is not taking action because you’re afraid of failure or a bruised ego. Inaction is what keeps lives from becoming great.
Inaction is what will rob you of becoming the greatest you.
9. Let go of all excuses. How often have you known what you need to do but put it off for some bull shit reason? Your brain tends to want to maintain a comfortable status quo and avoid pain.
As such, you naturally create excuses not to do things that your subconscious perceives as uncomfortable or risky.
Excuses prevent you from doing what you’re afraid of, and they keep you safe—at least at the surface-level. But we know that excuses are simply limiting your growth. You don’t want a complacent, lazy life. If you did, you wouldn’t be reading this.
He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.― Benjamin Franklin
Learn to identify when your making excuses. They’re limiting, and they’re almost always BS. Instead, focus on growth and improvement. When you feel yourself saying I don’t have the time or I’m just too tired, or when the temptation to distract yourself with idle pastimes rears its head, remind yourself of where you want to go.
Remind yourself that excuses will keep you from getting there. If you don’t want anything in your life to change, listen to your own excuses. If you want things to improve, kick them aside and don’t look back.
10. Let go of thinking you are not enough. You are enough and you deserve to have everything that you want. You’re also your worst enemy and your hardest life critic. If you want a girl, go get her. If you see a business opportunity, go seize it.
When you tell yourself you can’t do it, you’re always right. You can or you can’t. The decision is yours.
On the other hand, when you tell yourself that you are enough—that you can do anything and be anything that you want—nothing can stop you.
If you think you are beaten, you are… If
you think you’re outclassed, you are… Life’s battles don’t always go to
the stronger or faster man, but soon or late the man who wins is the one
who thinks he can. – Walter D. Wintle
The world is yours. It’s not magic; it takes work, and you’ll still be met with challenges and failures. But you control your mood, you control how you react to things, and you control what you do next.
Don’t let what others say or do affect you. Know who you are and be confident in what you bring to the table. You are enough, and nobody deserves happiness more than you.
11. Let go of attachment. At any second, on any day, at any moment, you could lose something or someone. Your house, your car, your phone, even your relationships—they’re impermanent, and none of them can make you 100% happy.
Happiness comes from within and that’s not a bad thing. It’s the best thing ever, in fact: it means that you can be happy right now, provided you change your mindset and just let go of attachment to the unnecessary. The most satisfying experiences in life are those which are experienced without any sense of attachment.
The reason many people in our society are
miserable, sick, and highly stressed is because of an unhealthy
attachment to things they have no control over. – Steve Maraboli
Easier said than done, I know. It’s not impossible, though. Eastern philosophy suggests that all suffering comes from attachment. Note that this is distinct from love—attachment comes from being afraid of losing something, but love is pure, kind, and selfless.
Where there is love, there is no room for fear.
16. Let go of all insecurities. Your insecurities don’t do you any favors—when you tell yourself that you’re not good enough, your ability follows suit. Insecurity breeds inaction and childish behavior, and nobody finds it attractive – especially women.
We’ve all got weaknesses and areas in which we lack confidence, but the difference between happy and unhappy people (and successful and unsuccessful people) is that happy people accept them and don’t get hung up on them.
Instead of allowing their self-conscious aspects to cripple them, they go out and work to change them.
They’re confident, energetic, and positive, so people rally around them. All they do is win.
One of the greatest journeys in life is overcoming insecurity and learning to truly not give a shit. – J.A Konrath
For many people, what’s called Automatic Negative Thinking can be crippling—throughout their day, constantly, hundreds of times, negative thoughts buzz through their head.
It’s hard to get good things done when your head’s full of negative emotions.
Likewise, automatic positive thoughts can help propel you to new levels of happiness and productivity. You set the tone and control your mind fully. Take control of it, make a habit of positive thinking, and watch the results follow. Start now.
17. Let go of living up to other people’s expectations. Friends, family, spouse, enemies, teachers, the government, the media, and a thousand other nameless, faceless entities believe they know what’s best for you. They don’t. You do. Simple as that.
Somewhere inside of you, a voice inside of you is telling you what you really want to do. So many people ignore that voice to the point that, eventually, it disappears altogether—along with their chances at happiness.
I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine. – Bruce Lee
Be honest with yourself about where your passions lie, what makes you happy, and what you really want. Trying to live up to others people’s expectations will only frustrate you, and it will distract you from doing the things that truly matter to you.
You can’t please everyone. Somewhat paradoxically, people also tend to admire those who don’t seek their approval—we recognize when someone doesn’t feel the need to meet our expectations, and we associate that with strength and intelligence.
They are being true to themselves and so should you.
That’s all the more reason to steer your life in the direction that you want it to go in. You have one life—this one, right now— own it.
19. Let go of all failures. You will fail in life, and that’s okay. The faster you accept this, the faster you can get on with creating more brilliant shit in your life and spending time with the people who matter. Everyone fails. Failures are a part of the process, and they impart us with lessons and experience that contribute to the larger end goal.
Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly. ― Robert F. Kennedy
Screwing up in the past doesn’t mean you’ll do it in the future. Trial and error is a part of all things. All that matters is what you do right now.
Remember what we’ve discussed before, that fear and insecurity are illusory of hold-ups that breed inaction.
Rid your mind of them, get back on the horse, and keep working. Failures happen, and you can’t control that. Move on and allow them to become a part of your success story.
20. Let go of comparing yourself to others. Only you can be you, with your unique gifts and talents. Your creative spark is yours alone.
Nobody in the world can beat you at being you. What’s more, there’s plenty of happiness and success to go around.
Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. – Oscar Wilde
Comparing yourself to others is a waste of time. Instead, you should be focused on being the best you. Who cares what others are doing? Be concerned with what you’re doing.
Comparison is the death of joy. ― Mark Twain
Instead of focusing on the ways other people seem better off than you, focus on what your strengths are. What do you bring to the table? Work on enhancing those skills. Become the best at what you do.
Know also that you’re already fortunate and blessed in a million ways, and that means there’s plenty in your own life to be very, very happy about.
Remember this truth: now matters more than any other time in your life, because it’s what you are doing today that is determining who you’re becoming, and who you’re becoming will always determine the quality and direction of your life.
The degree to which you accept responsibility for everything in your life is precisely the degree of personal power you have to change or create anything in your life.
It really doesn’t matter who is at fault—all that matters is that you and I are committed to leaving the past in the past and making our lives exactly the way we want them to be, starting today.
Not tomorrow, not next week, or next month. You’ve got to make a decision today that you’re ready to make the necessary changes to guarantee that you will be able to create the life you’ve always dreamed of.
To take your life and happiness to a level you’ve never been before, you have to be willing to commit at a level you’ve never committed to before.
Can you make that commitment for yourself?
- Andrew, Founder of Knowledge For Men
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